I remember one of the first fights Jason and I had. It was ridiculous and a huge misunderstanding, as most fights are. My dad just happened to call that day, and I told him all about it. I was sort of hoping that he would listen, take my side, and say something like, "Well, you'll just have to wait it out until Jason comes to his senses." But of course, what he did was much smarter.
"You know, El," he said, "Your mom and I have had a lot of fights. And we've had . . . some real doozies. And I know that this is probably not your last fight with Jason, and I know you guys will find a way to work it out."
Of course, he was right. Jason and I have been blissfully married for five and a half years now. Sometimes we had to fight for that bliss. And sometimes, we just fought.
But in recent conversations Jason and I have said that we both feel that we like we are in a special place in our marriage. We've gotten to know each other so well that our knowledge of each other miraculously helps us to avoid fights (who knew?). We both shared stories of incidents that would have been explosive five years/three years/one year ago, but instead we both clearly saw the end results of our actions, and chose the action that defused the situation.
And this gives me hope. Not just for my marriage, but for my relationship with God. Christ and His Church are a picture of the most perfect marriage. I know that we should make our present marriage reflect that relationship, and not make our walk with God reflect our present marriages, but I think God is cool with what I'm about to say next. If I can grow in my relationship with another human being enough to bypass old stumbling blocks, then that is a hopeful picture of how I can grow in my relationship with God and bypass old stumbling blocks. I will not continue to go around this mountain again and again. I AM learning. I AM growing. And I am becoming part of His Beautiful Bride.
You inspire me.
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